Jimmy’s mom decided that if the ship comes in a few days early, she’ll come down with his younger sisters (10 & 13 I think now). But the current homecoming date is right before when they have a week at a cabin up in northern WI planned, so if the date stays the same they won’t be able to make it.

So we shall see. I could see it going either way, and knowing the Navy we won’t know for sure for another couple weeks at least.

I think it’d be fun if his mom did come, they’d be able to hang out at the beach on top of seeing the homecoming. But I do think having them in the house with us right after deployment (aka sex deprival period) could be awkward. Guess we’ll just have to be quiet and sneaky if that’s the case.

A friend from work started dating a Marine a few months ago, while he was deployed. They’d been friends for years & she was like head over heels for this guy, which is saying something considering prior to him she thought relationships were a waste of time & preferred hookups/fwb situations.

Last week he came home from Afghanistan & obviously she was excited about this, made him a sign, drove up to the homecoming with his parents, etc. Today she tells me that he’s basically ignored her and been a complete douche since he got back. They went to a party together and he was the life of the party with everyone else but didn’t talk to her. She showed me some texts from him, where she asked why he was ignoring her and he replied “What, did you expect me to be all over you?”. She said no, and he just replied “ok then”.

I just can’t imagine being a total dick like that to someone you’re dating and supposedly care so much about. She waited for him, she showed up for him & he’s treating her like that. Basically the vibe I’m getting is she was fine to keep him from getting bored and lonely over there, but now that he’s home & with his friends & family he couldn’t give a shit about her.

I feel so bad for her.

Once again this guy in the group for Jimmy’s ship is getting someone to reach out to his son to tell him to email him. This is at least the 3rd time this guy has done this. Not to sound like a bitch, but if your son only emails you when you get someone else’s kid to tell him “Hey, your dad told my mom to tell me to tell you to email him”, he probably does not want to email you. He’s busy and is choosing to spend the little free time he has doing other things. He’s deployed, not on a leisure cruise, and he is also an adult. Going to such lengths in non-emergency situations is just ridiculous. I’d be so fucking embarrassed if I was this poor guy. I’d be like if my dad called my work just to say “Tell Ashley to call me, I haven’t talked to her in so long”. Except worse because it’s a military deployment & I have a feeling guys would give each other more shit about this sort of thing.

And don’t get me started on the woman who’s husband hasn’t bothered to email, write or call in over a month & how everyone is all “He’s probably busy” but in reality…nobody is THAT busy, he’s just not making time for you.

I’ve never typed this before but…smdh at you people.

Getting started on the Teen Mom care package (cannot wait for him to get this one haha) & his birthday care package while I wait on my sister to get home from work so we can run some errands together.

I found Red Velvet poptarts & I already have astronaut ice cream for him, so that’s going to be the “cale & ice cream” part of his birthday package. I think I’m going to wrap everything in that one up so even if I’m not sending real presents, he’ll have stuff to open. I still need to track down bacon jerky, but I’ve been to 6 different gas stations looking for it and have had no luck. Might just have to buy it online.

It’s weird what little things you miss about someone when they’re not around. I’m trying to fall asleep and all I can think about is wanting to trace over Jimmy’s map tattoo with my fingers. It’s my favorite tattoo he has to this day, but not because its the most well done (his sleeve is amazing). It was the only tattoo he had when we met & one of the only ones he had when we first started dating (he had 2 more by that point). I remember the first night we ever spent together just lying in bed cuddling & tracing over it, probably because it was more raised up than the feathers on his other arm. Since then it’s just because something I’ll do from time to time when we’re cuddling. I’ve memorized how every inch of that tattoo feels and looks. I miss actually being able to feel it. I miss the little things like that.

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The 2 weeks they’re home is just enough time to get back into your normal routine until they have to leave again just to go through all the heartache and tears for a second time.

I literally just posted something like this somewhere else 2 minutes ago lol.

The Navy (at least those on carriers like Jimmy) doesn’t get R&R but I feel like the 2 months between the last deployment and this deployment were similar. It was enough time to get back into normal routines, get used to having him around & forget about the last deployment. Then suddenly he has to go again. That’s why I can’t decide whether I would have preferred the deployment just go from June-March like it was planned, or if the June-December then March-July split is better.

If they hadn’t come home in December, the deployment would have been over this week. Yes, it would have been 9 months without seeing each other at all, but it’d be behind us by now. I’d already be living up in Virginia and we’d have nothing to worry about anymore.

But we can’t change how things went down & we have what we have. We just have to make the best of this situation & know he’ll be home soon.

I was blanking on care package ideas for the one I’m sending next week, but I decided this time to go with funny/embarrassing & I’ve decided on Teen Mom.

This is gonna be good.