necksareforsheep replied to your post: Back, I guess

:( for the 4 years my guy and I have been together, I’ve been begging him not to join the military, b/c I have separation anxiety as it is, I would feel dead inside with such a huge part of me missing for so long…I just couldn’t handle it…

I think the worst part right now is that I’m mainly consumed with anxiety over how I’m going to deal with it. I’ve read tons of stuff trying to figure out how to deal with it, and supposedly it’s the first and last months that are the worst, and in between you fall into a routine so it isn’t so difficult. But 10 months is still 10 months. It doesn’t help that my boyfriend basically hates everything about his job & is becoming increasingly miserable (not because the military or navy are inherently terrible, but because his leadership is).

If it’s something your guy really wants to do, I’d try to talk it out with him with an open mind. Some guys are just meant for the military & they love it. It sounds a bit like obnoxious advice columnist crap, but you don’t want him to resent you or whatever because you discouraged him from doing what he wanted to do. That said, it’s not wrong to voice your concerns and be considered in a big decision like that. Being apart sucks and  if you can avoid it without anyone feeling like their dreams are being crushed, avoid it.

I doubt you wanted such a lengthy response to your comment but I’m bored so I figured I’d give it haha. Also, has he looked into the Guard or Reserves? They still get deployed but they’re around more & you don’t have to deal with moving around.